04/02/2024 - 'MND takes everything...' by David
It's 12 months since my 'Theory Of Everything' moment. Anyone who has seen the film with Eddie Redmayne playing the part of Stephen Hawking, will remember the moment when he falls to the ground with a thud and his world changes forever. Unlike a 120 minute film, my story is thankfully told in real time and in the last year, I have come to terms with my condition and, in fact, embraced life ever since.
It's impossible to determine the actual date of my first symptoms as Alice had noticed twitches in my legs, and I had been getting leg cramps for over a year, but my fall while out running last January, training for the Brighton marathon was definitely a turning point, and from that moment on, we both realised that another marathon was beyond my capabilities, and that I should get my body seen to by professionals. We both hoped it was leg related, but unfortunately, as the tests, went on, it was becoming obvious, that it was neurological, and I was diagnosed within months.
So 12 months on, I am still walking, talking, and smiling and life is definitely different, sometimes difficult, but ultimately, I am happy and fulfilled.
I received some good news this week, when I received the results of the blood test I had taken months ago, to see if I have the genetic form of MND, and I'm happy to report that I don't! About 10% of sufferers have inherited it from their blood relatives, and although it might actually have been better for me personally, as there are drugs available to slow the progression of familial MND, it is most definitely the outcome I wanted.
It is such a relief to know that I haven't passed this gene to my daughters, as this may have affected them, or any children that they may have. I told both my daughters and my siblings the good news, as this will mean that they have no higher chance of having MND than anyone else.
We have all been amazed by the inspirational exploits of rugby players Doddie Weir, Rob Burrow and Kevin Sinfield over the last few years, and March Of The Day is aiming to provide something similar in the world of football. Stephen Darby, ex Liverpool and Bradford player, and Marcus Stewart, who played for Ipswich and Sunderland, both have MND and are just as keen to raise money and the profile of MND as their rugby counterparts. The event, a 178 mile walk over two and a half days in March, starts at Bradford City FC, finishes at Liverpool FC, and visits 17 clubs on the way. Over 60 former professional footballers will walk with MND sufferers and carers, and The Professional Footballers’ Association have come on board as the main sponsor. They have already raised over £30,000 and many teams are sending representatives to show solidarity to a disease that seems to be prevalent among athletes. If you want to know more, please search online for Darby Rimmer MND Foundation. On a slightly different theme, it is really pleasing to see that Luke Littler, the 16 year old darts sensation, will wear the MNDA logo on his shirt in the 2024 Premier League season.
All this fundraising is certainly raising the public's consciousness of this rare but devastating illness, and the importance of finding a cure. You may also have seen a short film that premiered during the ad break in this week's Coronation Street on ITV, to coincide with a storyline in which one of the characters is living with MND. It shows a lady caring for her partner as the disease takes hold of his body. It's not an easy watch, in fact Alice and I were both in tears, but we think it is important for all our friends to watch it, so we shared the link on our Facebook pages. There are 3 other films that will be shown in coming months. The film finishes with the words "MND takes everything, but it can't take the love inside".
Alice, Fin, and I have been sorting through all our stuff ahead of our move, and we ended up with two bin liners packed full. When I dropped off the bags at the charity shop, I noticed that the shirts that I dropped off the day before, were already on the racks. I rearranged them for a photo and the three closest to the camera were mine.
I took the first of my daily doses of the research trial drug that I signed up for last week, and it tasted horrid! They told me in a clinic that it in syrup form, for those MND sufferers that are tube fed, and because they used the word 'syrup' I assumed that it would be sweet - it wasn't! I'm on day 4 and I haven't had to document any side effects on the diary that I am filling in, although it's a blinded drug verses placebo trial so I could be swallowing nothing more than just an unsweetened syrup.
Riluzole is currently the only drug available that slows symptoms, and when it was first prescribed for me, my consultant said that it's important to weigh up the impact of any side effects against the quality of my life. Its important for people with MND to keep their weight up and I have not had a big appetite since I started taking Riluzole. I also feel full very easily, so I have temporarily stopped taking it to see whether my appetite improves. If you can't enjoy food, then you can't enjoy life right?
We travelled to Salisbury for parkrun this week and we met up with our Wiltshire and Dorset friends for a 5k shuffle followed by breakfast and as usual, it was the highlight of my week.
The love and support shown by our friends, and also the wider parkrun community is amazing and means the world to us.
It was a 4 loop course in a park by the river, and once the faster runners in our 26 strong group had lapped us and finished, some of them came and joined the 'Baker fun bus" at the back and helped me to the finish line, where the others were waiting to cheer me in. It's very emotional and I love them all.
I spent Saturday night in the hilarious company of Dee, Bunny, Kev, Carl and Dazzer, a bunch of old school mates and we roared with laughter at the delinquent and immature antics that we and our friends got up to all those years ago. Being blokes, not one of us thought to take a photo but rest assured, we all looked gorgeous!
I finished my week with a really nice Sunday afternoon DJ set at Overdraft, in Shirley with some of our lovely friends, including my daughter Rachel, who came over from the island to surprise me.
I have previously had an hour to play as many 7" singles as I can, but this was a leisurely 4 hour set, which meant I could play lots of my 12" extended versions, enabling Alice and I to sit down and chat to everyone between records
I also chose a more laid back set, leaving my punk rock vinyl at home. What do you think of my set?
Haircut One Hundred - Favourite Shirts
Carry Simon - Why
Forrest- Rock The Boat
JB's All Stars - One Minute Every Hour
Tina Charles - Love Bug/ Sweets For My Sweet
Heavy D & The Boyz - Mr Big Stuff
Martin Stephenson And The Daintees - Boat To Bolivia
Orange Juice - Rip It Up
Princess - Say I'm Your No 1
The Kane Gang - Closest Thing To Heaven
Momus - Don't Leave
Aztec Camera - All I Need Is Everything
Japan - Nightporter
Scritti Politti - The Word Girl/Flesh & Blood
Englandneworder - World In Motion
The Psychedelic Furs - The Ghost In You
Talk Talk - It's My Life
Tom Robinson - War Baby
Animal Nightlife - Mr Solitaire
The Style Council - The Lodger
Everything But The Girl - Come On Home
The Christians - Harvest For The World
Paul Hardcastle - 19
Thompson Twins - Hold Me Now
DNA featuring Suzanne Vega - Tom's Diner
The Style Council - You're The Best Thing
Tom Browne - Funkin For Jamaica
The Dream Academy - Love
Orange Juice - I Can't Help Myself
Will Powers - Kissing With Confidence
Soft Cell - Say Hello Wave Goodbye
Prefab Sprout - Nightingales
Eg & Alice - Indian
Blancmange - Waves
Altered Images - Don't Talk To Me About Love
The Bible - Mahalia
Aztec Camera - Jump
We put the charity box, wristbands and badges on the bar and we raised £93, which isn't bad for an afternoon doing something that I absolutely love! Graham, a fellow DJ friend of mine brought his family and their daughter asked me about MND and after I told her that even though my diagnosis is very sad, I am living a very happy life, she has decided to subscribe to this blog. She said she would tell all her friends at school about MND, and I told her that would make me very happy. So hello Holly, and thank you! Not only are you mentioned in this week's blog, but there is a photo of us both at the decks too!
I also spoke to Adam, who has totally turned his life around in the few years that I have known him. He is now at University, studying for a degree, playing football twice a week, training for a half marathon, learning to speak Spanish and walking up mountains! Well done Adam, you are an inspiration to us all.
Well that's about all for this week, I'm sure there is more trivial drivel, and mixed emotions, just around the corner but despite my silly hands making me smash a coffee cafetiere and a glass bottle this week, I remain determined to do as much as I can for as long as I can and enjoy myself while doing it.
Remember, MND takes everything, but it can't take the love inside x
Thanks for mentioning me
ReplyDeleteYour set at OD was great
I will tell all my friends about MND and cause awareness and hopefully we can someday find a cure
Wishing you the best
Your newest subscriber
Holly
Thank you Holly, it was great to see you and your family again and thank you for sharing my story!
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DeleteI’m glad I can raise awareness for MND it’s a pleasure
Thank you for sharing your story and I hopefully will be doing a OD set on the 3rd of April with my dad 🤞(fingers crossed)
Wishing you the best
Holly
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ReplyDeleteAnother wonderful read Dave, great to see you last night for many laughs. Today’s set looked good as always, my favourite Soft Cell track in there 👍, all the best, see you for more vinyl spinning on the 21st
ReplyDeleteCheers Dazzer, it was great to catch up with you. See you soon x
DeleteThe set was brilliant. I was having a little song along Good to see you and Alice today. See you soon. Xxx
ReplyDeleteGreat read Dave, another fun packed week. I would’ve liked to reminisce about the Cowes lads days, our jersey holiday, door burger and vital spark moments at the many beach parties. The NYE dress ups and human pyramids at many pub gardens, not to mention carls pinky making an appearance either out of his pockets or as the elephant!! Keep smiling x love mave x
ReplyDeleteHi Mave, they were great days! Lots of love x
DeleteInspiring as always Dave.
ReplyDeleteThank you!
DeleteThat was a fantastic and refreshing read Dave.
ReplyDeleteI did actually think about taking a group photo last night......but, like a bloke, I never got round to it! Really, really enjoyed the evening with you, Bunny, Dee, Blenky and Dazzer. See you Friday evening matey. Kev
Cheers Kev, it was a great night!
DeleteWell written and engaging as always Dave. The way you write is wonderful , as it is just like hearing you talk! Wish we were closer so could come to one of your DJ sets. Much love to you & Alice x
ReplyDeleteHi Kerry, we all miss you so much! Hopefully we can meet soon x
DeleteBeautifully written as always, you are both such an inspiration
ReplyDeleteThank you!
DeleteThank you! x
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